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Tough Love with Abigail Shrier
An advice column that’s essential in our coddled era. No sugarcoating, no hesitating. Just tough love.
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Tough Love: My Husband Hates Our Life
A mom of two’s partner spends ‘all day and night’ crying in the woods. But she doesn’t want to subject the kids to a divorce. Our advice columnist…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Will I Get Canceled for Dating a Freshman?
A 22-year-old wants to ask out his 18-year-old classmate but fears campus backlash: ‘They’d label it predatory, and I’d be staring down the barrel of…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Sister Soaks Up All of Our Parents’ Love
‘My sister has chosen to have a baby on her own,’ writes a reader—who wants to know why her parents are helping raise her sibling’s child when they…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Am I Too Young to Have a Baby?
A 24-year-old wife who’s still in med school is itching to start a family. ‘Am I crazy for not wanting to wait?’ she asks. Our advice columnist weighs…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Stepdaughter Thinks Her Awful Mom Is ‘Fun’
‘Can I tell my stepdaughter that her mom is a bitch?’ writes a 52-year-old stepmom. Our advice columnist weighs in.
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: A Boy Told My 7-Year-Old He Doesn’t Like Jews
‘My inclination is to do nothing, and let my daughter decide if she wants to be friends with this boy,’ writes an uncertain mom. Our advice columnist…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Is Changing Diapers Women’s Work?
A hands-on dad of four feels emasculated by his brothers-in-law, who fly around the world making deals while their wives look after the kids. Our advice…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: A Woman Says My Husband Assaulted Her
‘Should I respond to her and hear her side of the story? Or is trusting my husband enough?’ asks a happily married mother of three. Our advice columnist…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: How Do I Protect My Kids from My Mom?
A dad of three doesn’t want his alcoholic parents to drive his children around, ever. A soon-to-be mom doesn’t want her mother vaping around the baby…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Mom’s Boyfriend Is So Annoying
‘He makes outlandish claims, like that he has cured his own diabetes,’ writes a 42-year-old reader who finds his widowed mom’s boyfriend profoundly…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Am I Wrong to Not Want Kids?
An almost-30-year-old reader writes: ‘Lately I have been wondering if I am making a mistake by deciding not to have kids.’ Our advice columnist weighs…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Mom Says Gay Men Can’t Raise Kids
‘I know having two dads is different from a dad and a mom,’ writes a 30-year-old reader, ‘but I’m confident in the life I could provide for my future…
Abigail Shrier
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