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Tough Love with Abigail Shrier
An advice column that’s essential in our coddled era. No sugarcoating, no hesitating. Just tough love.
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Tough Love: Why Does My Husband Ask Me What to Feed the Kids?
A working mom of three wants to know: ‘Why am I still responsible for dinner planning on nights when I’m not even home?’ Our advice columnist weighs in.
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Can I Tell My Daughter She’s Fat?
A mom wants to know if she can encourage her mid-20s kid to ‘actively lose weight.’ Our advice columnist weighs in.
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My 38-Year-Old Lives Rent-Free in My Garage
‘How can we get him to become financially independent without alienating him?’ asks a worried father. Our advice columnist weighs in.
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Do I Like Being Single Too Much to Fall in Love?
After four years in an unsatisfying relationship, this young woman sees ‘singledom as a complete gift,’ and wants to know: Does she have to settle for a…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Son Doesn’t Like When I Visit His Family
‘We try to be very helpful on these visits,’ writes an infuriated grandmother. But her son recently told her they are too long. Our advice columnist…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Teenage Daughter Doesn’t Like My Boyfriend
A reader has finally moved on after her husband cheated and left her. ‘The difficulty is my oldest daughter,’ she writes. Our advice columnist weighs…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Can I Marry an Atheist?
A young reader hopes to marry his girlfriend—but she has an ‘adverse’ reaction to God, whereas he’s becoming more religious. Should he say ‘I do’? Our…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: I Love My Grandkids. But I Want to Move Across an Ocean.
A grandmother wants to relocate to ‘the place that allows my soul to sing’—thousands of miles away from her daughters and grandkids. Our advice…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Catholic Daughter Is No Longer a Virgin
A father is afraid his 18-year-old is ‘choosing infatuation and sin over love of God.’ Our advice columnist responds.
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Can I Fall Back in Love with My Husband?
A wife with three young kids is trying to be grateful for the man she married. She asks our advice columnist: ‘How long do I try?’
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Do I Sever Ties with My Anti-Vax Brother?
A reader is struggling with the ‘unsafe choices’ her brother makes for his kids.
Abigail Shrier
Get Ready for Tough Love! This Week: My Anti-Vax Brother
Can you have a relationship with a sibling who takes risks with their children? Risks you see as nonsensical? That’s the question Abigail Shrier answers…
Abigail Shrier
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