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Tough Love with Abigail Shrier
An advice column that’s essential in our coddled era. No sugarcoating, no hesitating. Just tough love.
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Tough Love: I Hate My Ex-Wife
‘I think she’s a weak, pathetic coward who has prioritized self-indulgent therapeutic bullshit over what’s best for the babies,’ writes a 43-year-old…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: I Can’t Talk to My Wife About Money
‘She has always insisted on having her own bank account,’ writes a husband, whose wife has been ‘transferring money from our joint account’ without…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Why Does Everyone Say Marriage Is Hard?
‘I am way happier with my husband than I ever expected to be with anyone,’ says a newlywed child of divorce. ‘How can I avoid ruining this?’ Our advice…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: She Only Wanted Two Kids, So I Dumped Her
‘I was up-front about my deal-breakers,’ writes a 33-year-old man. ‘Staying in the New York area and having at least three children.’ Our advice…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Father-in-Law Is Spoiled
‘He sits at the table waiting to be served,’ writes a disgruntled dad of three. ‘When he finishes, he leaves the plate there for someone else to clear…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Should My Son Hit a Bully?
A millennial mom has seen a 5-year-old ‘punch, kick, and push my son’ at preschool. ‘What’s hardest for me is what this experience is doing to my…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Husband Hates Our Life
A mom of two’s partner spends ‘all day and night’ crying in the woods. But she doesn’t want to subject the kids to a divorce. Our advice columnist…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Will I Get Canceled for Dating a Freshman?
A 22-year-old wants to ask out his 18-year-old classmate but fears campus backlash: ‘They’d label it predatory, and I’d be staring down the barrel of…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Sister Soaks Up All of Our Parents’ Love
‘My sister has chosen to have a baby on her own,’ writes a reader—who wants to know why her parents are helping raise her sibling’s child when they…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: Am I Too Young to Have a Baby?
A 24-year-old wife who’s still in med school is itching to start a family. ‘Am I crazy for not wanting to wait?’ she asks. Our advice columnist weighs…
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: My Stepdaughter Thinks Her Awful Mom Is ‘Fun’
‘Can I tell my stepdaughter that her mom is a bitch?’ writes a 52-year-old stepmom. Our advice columnist weighs in.
Abigail Shrier
Tough Love: A Boy Told My 7-Year-Old He Doesn’t Like Jews
‘My inclination is to do nothing, and let my daughter decide if she wants to be friends with this boy,’ writes an uncertain mom. Our advice columnist…
Abigail Shrier
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