I read the first paragraph of this story to my girlfriend, the rant about women being invisible, and this is what she had to say. First, a word about her: she is 58, weight appropriate, a reader, makers her own jewelry, loyal to her family, never married, could not have kids, went to Texas A&M, and a happy well adjusted person. What she …
I read the first paragraph of this story to my girlfriend, the rant about women being invisible, and this is what she had to say. First, a word about her: she is 58, weight appropriate, a reader, makers her own jewelry, loyal to her family, never married, could not have kids, went to Texas A&M, and a happy well adjusted person. What she said was "I felt invisible for a lot of my life and I just decided that I didn't care." So, it seems that for many women, its not the being invisible part that hurts, it's the loss of being the center of attention for so many years that causes them to pound on tables. I dated those ladies back when they were young, and can report that they organized everything to maximize the benefits to themselves based on the way they looked. And now, their only asset has diminished in value, and a new crop of girls are right behind them and its the new young and hot's turn to play the game. Back when the older ladies dressed to attract attention, they complained about the dreaded 'male gaze' and now, they complain about being invisible. Essentially, it is now the turn of younger women to be in the spotlight and the older women are bitter. Every bit of the world's wisdom literature warns that old age is coming and one had best prepare for it, but these ladies did not, and I just can't feel sorry for them. Steps aside with grace, and enjoy what older age offers, and let go of your past, ladies, because bitter and old isn't a good look.
I read the first paragraph of this story to my girlfriend, the rant about women being invisible, and this is what she had to say. First, a word about her: she is 58, weight appropriate, a reader, makers her own jewelry, loyal to her family, never married, could not have kids, went to Texas A&M, and a happy well adjusted person. What she said was "I felt invisible for a lot of my life and I just decided that I didn't care." So, it seems that for many women, its not the being invisible part that hurts, it's the loss of being the center of attention for so many years that causes them to pound on tables. I dated those ladies back when they were young, and can report that they organized everything to maximize the benefits to themselves based on the way they looked. And now, their only asset has diminished in value, and a new crop of girls are right behind them and its the new young and hot's turn to play the game. Back when the older ladies dressed to attract attention, they complained about the dreaded 'male gaze' and now, they complain about being invisible. Essentially, it is now the turn of younger women to be in the spotlight and the older women are bitter. Every bit of the world's wisdom literature warns that old age is coming and one had best prepare for it, but these ladies did not, and I just can't feel sorry for them. Steps aside with grace, and enjoy what older age offers, and let go of your past, ladies, because bitter and old isn't a good look.
Great take on the situation we find ourselves in. I've been fascinated lately by the structures of beliefs in people's lives.