Ahhhh...........there it is; resiliency. I watched as my son developed resiliency by his own ideas and actions. It was tough at first, but over time became something that was very satisfying for my wife and I. FYI, he strongly resisted talking to a counselor/therapist in lieu of figuring it out himself. We seem to have ceded this growth …
Ahhhh...........there it is; resiliency. I watched as my son developed resiliency by his own ideas and actions. It was tough at first, but over time became something that was very satisfying for my wife and I. FYI, he strongly resisted talking to a counselor/therapist in lieu of figuring it out himself. We seem to have ceded this growth to the psychological services which seem to delay it, producing extended dependent children or at its worse inept adults.
I chuckle recalling my youngest, now 27. When he was little and took a spill, his first reaction was to look around to see who saw it. If he detected an adult, he burst into tears. If you saw it through a window and he didn't know you were watching, he'd dust himself off and keep going. Too much oversight and too much validation of trauma seems to backfire. (He's a ruggedly independent adult now!)
Ahhhh...........there it is; resiliency. I watched as my son developed resiliency by his own ideas and actions. It was tough at first, but over time became something that was very satisfying for my wife and I. FYI, he strongly resisted talking to a counselor/therapist in lieu of figuring it out himself. We seem to have ceded this growth to the psychological services which seem to delay it, producing extended dependent children or at its worse inept adults.
I chuckle recalling my youngest, now 27. When he was little and took a spill, his first reaction was to look around to see who saw it. If he detected an adult, he burst into tears. If you saw it through a window and he didn't know you were watching, he'd dust himself off and keep going. Too much oversight and too much validation of trauma seems to backfire. (He's a ruggedly independent adult now!)