I chuckle recalling my youngest, now 27. When he was little and took a spill, his first reaction was to look around to see who saw it. If he detected an adult, he burst into tears. If you saw it through a window and he didn't know you were watching, he'd dust himself off and keep going. Too much oversight and too much validation of trauma seems to backfire. (He's a ruggedly independent adult now!)
I chuckle recalling my youngest, now 27. When he was little and took a spill, his first reaction was to look around to see who saw it. If he detected an adult, he burst into tears. If you saw it through a window and he didn't know you were watching, he'd dust himself off and keep going. Too much oversight and too much validation of trauma seems to backfire. (He's a ruggedly independent adult now!)
I chuckle recalling my youngest, now 27. When he was little and took a spill, his first reaction was to look around to see who saw it. If he detected an adult, he burst into tears. If you saw it through a window and he didn't know you were watching, he'd dust himself off and keep going. Too much oversight and too much validation of trauma seems to backfire. (He's a ruggedly independent adult now!)