Why is this video a cautionary tale for only conservative women? Crowder isn’t abusive because he’s conservative, he’s abusive because he’s an a*#hole, and a-holes come in every flavor.
I agree. He's an a*hole. I watched the video and thought, "Is this real? It sounds like the dialog in a poorly written scene written by a woke liberal looking to shame men."
What an incredible, self-righteous, condescending jerk.
As a guy who is not religious and not at all conservative…this Crowder blowhard/d-bag is EXACTLY what I imagine when any asshat leads with “…as a religious conservative”.
It’s also antithetical as a starting point to counter woke tribalism. Do as you do, and I, or any other listener/viewer/reader, will decide if your actions qualify you as a “religious conservative”.
This is also the part that boggles my mind about so-called religious conservatives….in that they will tolerate and support characters like this guy.
Having just finished reading Tara Westover’s memoir, “Educated,” this awful story is even more disturbing. As a Christian man and husband who is fairly conservative, it is just confirmation that it doesn’t matter what we say we are, it only matters how we live. As husbands, we are either willing to serve our wives as Christ served us all -willing to give our lives for them- or we aren’t. I’m sincerely saddened to learn of the conflict and anger in the Crowder’s marriage. I don’t follow Mr. Crowder, and claim no insight into his marriage. But if this column is accurate, I hope both he and his wife recognize that change is possible with sincere repentance. As Ms. Westover’s book illuminates, that is a very difficult standard to meet, but not impossible.
As a long time prosecutor I've learned to see the signs of domestic abuse. His treatment of his wife is appalling and demonstrates how an abuser manipulates his partner into thinking she is at fault for all his problems. Thankfully his wife has enough self esteem to not allow him to treat her in such a reprehensible manner. Domestic abuse is not an issue that is only isolated to Christian conservatives, it touches every segment of society and must be stopped and deterred wherever it rears it ugly head.
The society we have now produces the worst in everyone. This man is not a conservative. He is not conserving anything. He is not recognizing even the obligations he has freely entered into. To be conservative is to believe in more than oneself and ones desires. It is to believe that the world is ordered with virtues, dignity, obligations, honors, customs, laws and love. Here he is telling his wife to serve him while she's eight months pregnant. You are absolutely right that, that is not loving, thoughtful, compassionate or honorable. It's pure self obsession, it's conceit.
Society has spent countless years convincing everyone that individual self happiness is all that matters. This idea is not a traditional conservative idea. It is definitely not a Christian or Jewish idea. It is in fact the most extreme version of liberalism, of self autonomy. Where liberalism finds its end and goes to a MAID clinic to commit suicide. To truly love oneself we must have love for others that exceeds our own self love. Only in giving freely, compassionately to those we love more than ourselves do we discover what true love is. An obsessive focus on oneself is isolatory and ultimately harmful to ourselves as well as others to which we have sworn obligations and oaths too. To only concern yourself, with yourself ultimately ends in isolation. Most people observed in isolation end up going crazy and falling into despair. Therefore it absolutely true that to love oneself you first must love someone else more than yourself.
ephesians 5
Instructions for Christian Households
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
This mans actions are the result of emptiness and have led to emptiness and therefore cannot possibly conserve anything.
This article is unnecessary and unworthy of TFP. The author’s valid but tangential points are buried in this lurid click-baity article, more worthy of The Daily Mail. Not your finest hour, TFP.
I've been married for 32 years and there is no context which justifies treating or speaking to your wife in this manner. A man and a woman are a couple, partners, different in composition but equal in all manner and mode. There is nothing political about this. This is human. Spinning it political is as sickening as Crowder's behavior and language toward his wife.
Why is everyone making such a big deal about this? I don't have a clue who this Crowder character is, and I certainly don't care.
I remember Bari featured a story about an older couple, where the wife berated her husband in a similar fashion, she told him that if he didn't vote the way she demanded, she wouldn't have sex with him. No one seemed to care a wit when some unknown woman abused her husband, why the sudden blown up concern when some unknown man berates his wife?
Comment from the Glass House on the Left, I would HATE to have a 3 minute video of some bits of my (successful 26 year) marriage posted online. Yes, he was being an ass and she seemed to be used to managing this type of behavior. Not excusing anything, but before I start throwing rocks...
Why is this video a cautionary tale for only conservative women? Crowder isn’t abusive because he’s conservative, he’s abusive because he’s an a*#hole, and a-holes come in every flavor.
I agree. He's an a*hole. I watched the video and thought, "Is this real? It sounds like the dialog in a poorly written scene written by a woke liberal looking to shame men."
What an incredible, self-righteous, condescending jerk.
As a guy who is not religious and not at all conservative…this Crowder blowhard/d-bag is EXACTLY what I imagine when any asshat leads with “…as a religious conservative”.
It’s also antithetical as a starting point to counter woke tribalism. Do as you do, and I, or any other listener/viewer/reader, will decide if your actions qualify you as a “religious conservative”.
This is also the part that boggles my mind about so-called religious conservatives….in that they will tolerate and support characters like this guy.
Good on the author for calling it out.
Didn’t this guy turn down a $50 million deal or something? How do they only have one car?
Having just finished reading Tara Westover’s memoir, “Educated,” this awful story is even more disturbing. As a Christian man and husband who is fairly conservative, it is just confirmation that it doesn’t matter what we say we are, it only matters how we live. As husbands, we are either willing to serve our wives as Christ served us all -willing to give our lives for them- or we aren’t. I’m sincerely saddened to learn of the conflict and anger in the Crowder’s marriage. I don’t follow Mr. Crowder, and claim no insight into his marriage. But if this column is accurate, I hope both he and his wife recognize that change is possible with sincere repentance. As Ms. Westover’s book illuminates, that is a very difficult standard to meet, but not impossible.
If the man publicly makes a virtue of his conservative family values, then his behaviour in this instance is fair game.
Great article.
As a long time prosecutor I've learned to see the signs of domestic abuse. His treatment of his wife is appalling and demonstrates how an abuser manipulates his partner into thinking she is at fault for all his problems. Thankfully his wife has enough self esteem to not allow him to treat her in such a reprehensible manner. Domestic abuse is not an issue that is only isolated to Christian conservatives, it touches every segment of society and must be stopped and deterred wherever it rears it ugly head.
The society we have now produces the worst in everyone. This man is not a conservative. He is not conserving anything. He is not recognizing even the obligations he has freely entered into. To be conservative is to believe in more than oneself and ones desires. It is to believe that the world is ordered with virtues, dignity, obligations, honors, customs, laws and love. Here he is telling his wife to serve him while she's eight months pregnant. You are absolutely right that, that is not loving, thoughtful, compassionate or honorable. It's pure self obsession, it's conceit.
Society has spent countless years convincing everyone that individual self happiness is all that matters. This idea is not a traditional conservative idea. It is definitely not a Christian or Jewish idea. It is in fact the most extreme version of liberalism, of self autonomy. Where liberalism finds its end and goes to a MAID clinic to commit suicide. To truly love oneself we must have love for others that exceeds our own self love. Only in giving freely, compassionately to those we love more than ourselves do we discover what true love is. An obsessive focus on oneself is isolatory and ultimately harmful to ourselves as well as others to which we have sworn obligations and oaths too. To only concern yourself, with yourself ultimately ends in isolation. Most people observed in isolation end up going crazy and falling into despair. Therefore it absolutely true that to love oneself you first must love someone else more than yourself.
ephesians 5
Instructions for Christian Households
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[c] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
This mans actions are the result of emptiness and have led to emptiness and therefore cannot possibly conserve anything.
This article is unnecessary and unworthy of TFP. The author’s valid but tangential points are buried in this lurid click-baity article, more worthy of The Daily Mail. Not your finest hour, TFP.
I've been married for 32 years and there is no context which justifies treating or speaking to your wife in this manner. A man and a woman are a couple, partners, different in composition but equal in all manner and mode. There is nothing political about this. This is human. Spinning it political is as sickening as Crowder's behavior and language toward his wife.
Great article. And this guy promotes himself as a "Christian"? Unreal. I hope he's never allowed near his children.
It's good to know that his dickhead radio persona wasn't being faked, I guess. What a tragedy.
One rather hopes that after this exposure he will find himself involuntarily celibate.
Why is everyone making such a big deal about this? I don't have a clue who this Crowder character is, and I certainly don't care.
I remember Bari featured a story about an older couple, where the wife berated her husband in a similar fashion, she told him that if he didn't vote the way she demanded, she wouldn't have sex with him. No one seemed to care a wit when some unknown woman abused her husband, why the sudden blown up concern when some unknown man berates his wife?
That was awful to watch. Just awful.
Comment from the Glass House on the Left, I would HATE to have a 3 minute video of some bits of my (successful 26 year) marriage posted online. Yes, he was being an ass and she seemed to be used to managing this type of behavior. Not excusing anything, but before I start throwing rocks...