I have a coffee shop and I have to yet hire a young person who cleans the bathrooms, although it is in the job description they agree to be paid for. Those kids leave their homes with basically no challenge ever, no skills, and no work ethics. Every attempt made to treat them as adults is an offense. These people will lead the world in a bit. We are all fucked 🤣.
I have a coffee shop and I have to yet hire a young person who cleans the bathrooms, although it is in the job description they agree to be paid for. Those kids leave their homes with basically no challenge ever, no skills, and no work ethics. Every attempt made to treat them as adults is an offense. These people will lead the world in a bit. We are all fucked 🤣.
Ha-ha, as a supervisor, I had one of my employees complain about me to our division director that I didn’t love her enough. A young woman in her 20s. That was her exact complaint. She expected me to behave like her parent.
I think the problem starts with early childhood education when the only goal is to make everyone, feel good. And it continues through all levels of education with social media reviews and feedback. Everyone has to feel happy. So the students are able to avoid challenges and hard work. But what works for toddlers, shouldn’t for kids beginning with age 7, I think. Yes, you don’t want toddlers to cry. But at some point our children must be toughen up and learn responsibilities.
I see how my grandchildren are being raised: we cannot criticize them because they get upset and we cannot make them do things they don’t like. When we play a game of chess, I cannot win, because my granddaughter starts crying and refuses to play ever again. Something is terribly wrong about this kind of parenting. So it shouldn’t come as a surprise when young people look for safe comfortable places in life more than for anything else.
"I see how my grandchildren are being raised: we cannot criticize them because they get upset and we cannot make them do things they don’t like. When we play a game of chess, I cannot win, because my granddaughter starts crying and refuses to play ever again. Something is terribly wrong about this kind of parenting. So it shouldn’t come as a surprise when the young people look for safe comfortable places in life more than for anything else."
Yeah thats not good for the kids & will end up hurting them. As a mom of young kids, we set expectations & rules. Our kids do chores. They obviously have to do things they don't like. Life isn't always about having fun. The expectation is that they clean up their toys before leaving the room. Actually you do want toddlers to cry. They have to learn that crying will not make me give in & spoil them. If they cry for no good reason, I walk away & let them cry it out. If I'd try to stop the tears by doing whatever they want, then they'll always cry & throw temper tantrums their whole life to get their way.
Our neighbor, when her daughter was little, wouldn't let her cry. She would do whatever the kid wanted, just so she'd stop crying. Now the daughter is a teenager. If she wants her mom to buy her stuff, she throws a teenage temper tantrum: hissy fit, slamming doors, threatening suicide. That's one that teen girls love to do.
We aim to have our kids follow our rules & expectations. They have to learn that they can't always get their way in life. They have to learn disappointment. The most valuable lesson.
There is a middle ground, too, which is appropriate in many circumstances: Don't give in to what he wants, but hug him as he cries. I remember when my belly got too big with #2 to carry #1. He had a tantrum on the sidewalk. I felt like crying, too. I told him I can't carry you, but we can sit here and hug until you feel better, and then we can walk and hold hands. So we did. He's a pretty well-adjusted fellow, now, and has even carried me from time to time! Other important motherly instruction includes "So f'in what?" when dealing with minor upsets, and "It's your own damn fault and no one feels sorry for you." And "hearts are made for loving, but you have a right to protect yourself from people who want to hurt you." A lot of weird parents out there today, hurting their kids with saccharine sweet denials of reality. Children should be taught that they are loved just because, that the world does not revolve around them, and how to contribute to the world around them. They are like threads, and the parents' job is to weave them into the fabric of society. Love isn't like Disneyland.
That’s the truth! Are we though I’m not so sure. We are such a great country and we are allowing all and sundry to make a real mess out of us - it’s a pity we need to get back on track. We have to stop doing a lot of the crazy shit we been doing the last 20 years. Like FB Social Media etc we have to get back to our communities our churches there is work to go let’s get cracking!
What’s baffling is that it’s not like employers pluck people from the ether to work for them. People apply for and ask for a job that once they get they treat like it’s nothing.
There’s a scene in the movie Cinderella Man where a thousand men show up at the docks for work and the foreman comes out and says he’ll take 50, which is a fraction of the men there. The rest go home during the Depression to little to no food. I think about that a lot and my grandparent’s generation, both my grandmothers had four brothers each who traveled across country for work programs. Did they feel despair? We’re they hopeful at all? We have so much more than they did on every level and yet this weird despair that has no remedy takes so many people. The bar that is placed on work with meaning and balance is invisible. Does anyone ever feel “balanced?” Or “fulfilled?” These terms are used to keep people constantly searching and unsatisfied. Were any of my uncles fulfilled or were they just happy to get a paycheck before they all got shipped off to WWII? Would we survive another Great Depression?
Yes there are young people today who are being told that their job/career needs to have meaning, to have purpose, to "fulfill them".
Which is nonsense. Fulfillment comes from your marriage, your children, your family & community. Anyone hoping their job will bring meaning to their life will keeping hoping forever.
Maybe some parents are giving the wrong message to their kids, who are looking for career guidance. We need to tell our kids to find a job that earns a paycheck; seek meaning in their families & communities.
I take it back. I have two more employees who do/did: the manager who is gay, and a former employee who is a conservative and who declined the unemployment in 2020 and looked for a job who allowed him to continue to work.
When we were in dire straits back in 2010 (mortgage upside down, no work to be found, savings dwindling), the wife persuaded me, against my better judgement, to get food stamps and state medical coverage for indigents. I said, "But we're able bodied and ought to be able to work!" Indeed it was not long before I found a good contract job in technology, and it's been good since then. I felt ashamed using those damned food stamps, and I would never recommend it to anyone who wants to keep their self-respect.
I see nothing wrong with the society helping when you are in need. I have wonderful hard working friends who were on food stamps for a few months while he was in school and she was not allowed to work due to her immigration status. Problem is with those who think they are entitled to that, forever if possible!
The fact that 'quietly quitting' is in the conversation shows how far we've descended. This is a term to justify being an awful employee, and is line with 'whatever shaming' being a way to justify behavior that should make one ashamed.
I have a coffee shop and I have to yet hire a young person who cleans the bathrooms, although it is in the job description they agree to be paid for. Those kids leave their homes with basically no challenge ever, no skills, and no work ethics. Every attempt made to treat them as adults is an offense. These people will lead the world in a bit. We are all fucked 🤣.
Totally fucked!
Ha-ha, as a supervisor, I had one of my employees complain about me to our division director that I didn’t love her enough. A young woman in her 20s. That was her exact complaint. She expected me to behave like her parent.
I think the problem starts with early childhood education when the only goal is to make everyone, feel good. And it continues through all levels of education with social media reviews and feedback. Everyone has to feel happy. So the students are able to avoid challenges and hard work. But what works for toddlers, shouldn’t for kids beginning with age 7, I think. Yes, you don’t want toddlers to cry. But at some point our children must be toughen up and learn responsibilities.
I see how my grandchildren are being raised: we cannot criticize them because they get upset and we cannot make them do things they don’t like. When we play a game of chess, I cannot win, because my granddaughter starts crying and refuses to play ever again. Something is terribly wrong about this kind of parenting. So it shouldn’t come as a surprise when young people look for safe comfortable places in life more than for anything else.
"I see how my grandchildren are being raised: we cannot criticize them because they get upset and we cannot make them do things they don’t like. When we play a game of chess, I cannot win, because my granddaughter starts crying and refuses to play ever again. Something is terribly wrong about this kind of parenting. So it shouldn’t come as a surprise when the young people look for safe comfortable places in life more than for anything else."
Yeah thats not good for the kids & will end up hurting them. As a mom of young kids, we set expectations & rules. Our kids do chores. They obviously have to do things they don't like. Life isn't always about having fun. The expectation is that they clean up their toys before leaving the room. Actually you do want toddlers to cry. They have to learn that crying will not make me give in & spoil them. If they cry for no good reason, I walk away & let them cry it out. If I'd try to stop the tears by doing whatever they want, then they'll always cry & throw temper tantrums their whole life to get their way.
Our neighbor, when her daughter was little, wouldn't let her cry. She would do whatever the kid wanted, just so she'd stop crying. Now the daughter is a teenager. If she wants her mom to buy her stuff, she throws a teenage temper tantrum: hissy fit, slamming doors, threatening suicide. That's one that teen girls love to do.
We aim to have our kids follow our rules & expectations. They have to learn that they can't always get their way in life. They have to learn disappointment. The most valuable lesson.
There is a middle ground, too, which is appropriate in many circumstances: Don't give in to what he wants, but hug him as he cries. I remember when my belly got too big with #2 to carry #1. He had a tantrum on the sidewalk. I felt like crying, too. I told him I can't carry you, but we can sit here and hug until you feel better, and then we can walk and hold hands. So we did. He's a pretty well-adjusted fellow, now, and has even carried me from time to time! Other important motherly instruction includes "So f'in what?" when dealing with minor upsets, and "It's your own damn fault and no one feels sorry for you." And "hearts are made for loving, but you have a right to protect yourself from people who want to hurt you." A lot of weird parents out there today, hurting their kids with saccharine sweet denials of reality. Children should be taught that they are loved just because, that the world does not revolve around them, and how to contribute to the world around them. They are like threads, and the parents' job is to weave them into the fabric of society. Love isn't like Disneyland.
Love children are like threads that need to be woven into the fabric of society!
That’s why we have immigration.
We can't just rely on immigration. I say this as an immigrant.
We have to ask ourselves, are we raising our kids well? are we raising our grandchildren well? Are we raising good Americans for the next generation?
This is our responsibility as parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles.
That’s the truth! Are we though I’m not so sure. We are such a great country and we are allowing all and sundry to make a real mess out of us - it’s a pity we need to get back on track. We have to stop doing a lot of the crazy shit we been doing the last 20 years. Like FB Social Media etc we have to get back to our communities our churches there is work to go let’s get cracking!
Legal immigration.
We don't want criminals.
Absolutely!
😂 I’m an immigrant and I confirm as the owner of the business I am the only one cleaning the bathroom.
I find that the best people to work with are the ones who do the extra 2% to help out. The rest just say it's not their job.
What’s baffling is that it’s not like employers pluck people from the ether to work for them. People apply for and ask for a job that once they get they treat like it’s nothing.
There’s a scene in the movie Cinderella Man where a thousand men show up at the docks for work and the foreman comes out and says he’ll take 50, which is a fraction of the men there. The rest go home during the Depression to little to no food. I think about that a lot and my grandparent’s generation, both my grandmothers had four brothers each who traveled across country for work programs. Did they feel despair? We’re they hopeful at all? We have so much more than they did on every level and yet this weird despair that has no remedy takes so many people. The bar that is placed on work with meaning and balance is invisible. Does anyone ever feel “balanced?” Or “fulfilled?” These terms are used to keep people constantly searching and unsatisfied. Were any of my uncles fulfilled or were they just happy to get a paycheck before they all got shipped off to WWII? Would we survive another Great Depression?
I use to live in the rust belt and remember a line out the door for a full time job at McDonalds. (notice job is singular)
I'm just wondering if some-a these can survive the next recession. We'll see.
Yes there are young people today who are being told that their job/career needs to have meaning, to have purpose, to "fulfill them".
Which is nonsense. Fulfillment comes from your marriage, your children, your family & community. Anyone hoping their job will bring meaning to their life will keeping hoping forever.
Maybe some parents are giving the wrong message to their kids, who are looking for career guidance. We need to tell our kids to find a job that earns a paycheck; seek meaning in their families & communities.
I take it back. I have two more employees who do/did: the manager who is gay, and a former employee who is a conservative and who declined the unemployment in 2020 and looked for a job who allowed him to continue to work.
When we were in dire straits back in 2010 (mortgage upside down, no work to be found, savings dwindling), the wife persuaded me, against my better judgement, to get food stamps and state medical coverage for indigents. I said, "But we're able bodied and ought to be able to work!" Indeed it was not long before I found a good contract job in technology, and it's been good since then. I felt ashamed using those damned food stamps, and I would never recommend it to anyone who wants to keep their self-respect.
How you used them is what they are for.
Yes but I reserve the right to feel ashamed :)
😂
I see nothing wrong with the society helping when you are in need. I have wonderful hard working friends who were on food stamps for a few months while he was in school and she was not allowed to work due to her immigration status. Problem is with those who think they are entitled to that, forever if possible!
Oh maybe they’re just “quietly quitting,” the newest craze in self-care!
I feel for employers.
I feel for America.
The fact that 'quietly quitting' is in the conversation shows how far we've descended. This is a term to justify being an awful employee, and is line with 'whatever shaming' being a way to justify behavior that should make one ashamed.
It’s absurd.