I live in NJ and have four sons ages: 21, 20, 18, and 16. Nobody is on meds. Nobody goes to a shrink. Average students. My 21 year old decided to skip college and works in sales in Florida. My 20 year old also didn't go to college and is in sales in Oregon. My 18 year old is a busser at a local restaurant and h…
I live in NJ and have four sons ages: 21, 20, 18, and 16. Nobody is on meds. Nobody goes to a shrink. Average students. My 21 year old decided to skip college and works in sales in Florida. My 20 year old also didn't go to college and is in sales in Oregon. My 18 year old is a busser at a local restaurant and has worked since he was 15. He will be going to work with his brother for the summer in Oregon and then community college. My 16 year old has been working since he was 14 as a busser and also in fast food. He has 8k saved up for a car. You need to be 17 to drive in NJ. He said he wants his own car so we can't tell him what to do and when he can and can't use the car. Do I see the kids that are described in the article? Not in their friend groups, but I know they exist. I have nothing against ride share or public transportation, but at a certain point you need a car.
They still go to parties, hang in the park and drink, and push the boundaries like when I was a kid.
Sex? I'm the mom, so I don't want to ask. ewwww...... But I've seen hickies on their necks and condoms hidden in their room. I don't see as many relationships as I remember in high school. It seems to be a bit more of a hookup culture.
My kids are all independent. Nature? Nurture? Who knows. Not that they're older they will tell me that we're much less restrictive than their friends' parents. I DO notice that my youngest is the most independent and the most rebellious. He gets in trouble in school a LOT and it's the things that would have been a slap on the wrist when I was in high school.
The trend is disturbing, but I grateful that we have average, normal and well-adjusted boys. Knock wood.
Long post, but hear me out.
I live in NJ and have four sons ages: 21, 20, 18, and 16. Nobody is on meds. Nobody goes to a shrink. Average students. My 21 year old decided to skip college and works in sales in Florida. My 20 year old also didn't go to college and is in sales in Oregon. My 18 year old is a busser at a local restaurant and has worked since he was 15. He will be going to work with his brother for the summer in Oregon and then community college. My 16 year old has been working since he was 14 as a busser and also in fast food. He has 8k saved up for a car. You need to be 17 to drive in NJ. He said he wants his own car so we can't tell him what to do and when he can and can't use the car. Do I see the kids that are described in the article? Not in their friend groups, but I know they exist. I have nothing against ride share or public transportation, but at a certain point you need a car.
They still go to parties, hang in the park and drink, and push the boundaries like when I was a kid.
Sex? I'm the mom, so I don't want to ask. ewwww...... But I've seen hickies on their necks and condoms hidden in their room. I don't see as many relationships as I remember in high school. It seems to be a bit more of a hookup culture.
My kids are all independent. Nature? Nurture? Who knows. Not that they're older they will tell me that we're much less restrictive than their friends' parents. I DO notice that my youngest is the most independent and the most rebellious. He gets in trouble in school a LOT and it's the things that would have been a slap on the wrist when I was in high school.
The trend is disturbing, but I grateful that we have average, normal and well-adjusted boys. Knock wood.
You must be doing something right. Keep it up..