There is an intense cognitive dissonance among the moral absolutist crowd.
They "hate all Republicans" until their friend's conservative parents invite them on a ski vacation. They "do not tolerate misogyny" until they start dating that frat bro. They "stand against [corporation x]" until they run out of deodorant.
There is an intense cognitive dissonance among the moral absolutist crowd.
They "hate all Republicans" until their friend's conservative parents invite them on a ski vacation. They "do not tolerate misogyny" until they start dating that frat bro. They "stand against [corporation x]" until they run out of deodorant.
Their inability to see the contradictions in their own life is shocking. I am not calling out the hypocrisy because I believe they should "stand by their word" -- I believe, like the author points out, that we need to understand that human life is full of these ugly, messy paradoxes. It's GOOD that things don't line up perfectly along the ways we think (or ways we think we think). We destroy our hypocrisy not by holding firmer to our siloed views, but by zooming out, and continuing to do so until all of this messiness is in frame. Only THEN we can decide what something means.
There is an intense cognitive dissonance among the moral absolutist crowd.
They "hate all Republicans" until their friend's conservative parents invite them on a ski vacation. They "do not tolerate misogyny" until they start dating that frat bro. They "stand against [corporation x]" until they run out of deodorant.
Their inability to see the contradictions in their own life is shocking. I am not calling out the hypocrisy because I believe they should "stand by their word" -- I believe, like the author points out, that we need to understand that human life is full of these ugly, messy paradoxes. It's GOOD that things don't line up perfectly along the ways we think (or ways we think we think). We destroy our hypocrisy not by holding firmer to our siloed views, but by zooming out, and continuing to do so until all of this messiness is in frame. Only THEN we can decide what something means.