When I was in Kindergarten at The Dalton School (a private school in NYC) in the 90s, I was sent to therapy for gender confusion - I was a boy who drew myself (because this is how I saw myself) in a dress, obsessed with Disney princesses, etc. I ended up growing up to be gay. Andrew Sullivan made a great comment I think it was on Bill Ma…
When I was in Kindergarten at The Dalton School (a private school in NYC) in the 90s, I was sent to therapy for gender confusion - I was a boy who drew myself (because this is how I saw myself) in a dress, obsessed with Disney princesses, etc. I ended up growing up to be gay. Andrew Sullivan made a great comment I think it was on Bill Maher, that as a young gay boy, it would have been extremely hurtful if an adult turned to him and said when he was doing these things (playing in mother’s clothes, things a lot of young gay boys do, etc) “well, what if you ARE actually a girl?” I don’t remember exactly how my therapy went, but I grew out of it, and actually don’t have any recollection of going to therapy for this in the first place (it was my teacher who had recommended it, and my parents told me later on that this had happened). I have many Trans adult friends who are out and proud but I wonder what would have happened if I was in Kindergarten today. Genuinely asking because I’m not sure how adult therapists dealing with these issues genuinely determine who to start on the process of transition vs weeding out those, who like me, end up growing out of it
I was similarly drawn to feminine things as a kid but grew out of it thanks to puberty. Puberty changes everything! Anyone who thinks blocking that natural progression from child to adult is a good idea must be next to brain dead.
I tend to think it's erroneous to believe that the LGBTQ covers all these people under one umbrella, I don't think there are that many Ls and Gs that necessarily agree with the Ts. Am I correct on this?
Gay guy here. I have never understood why trans is lumped in with gay. One is a sexuality, the other is completely different. Incedentally I wouldn't identify as part of toxic LGB(T+) "community."
Your experience is part of the historic norm - gender dysphoria/confusion used to occur predominantly in very young boys, who grew out of the phase and grew up to be gay (or straight), but very much male. The push for social transition and puberty blockers at such young ages effectively halts that natural and normal progression.
When I was in Kindergarten at The Dalton School (a private school in NYC) in the 90s, I was sent to therapy for gender confusion - I was a boy who drew myself (because this is how I saw myself) in a dress, obsessed with Disney princesses, etc. I ended up growing up to be gay. Andrew Sullivan made a great comment I think it was on Bill Maher, that as a young gay boy, it would have been extremely hurtful if an adult turned to him and said when he was doing these things (playing in mother’s clothes, things a lot of young gay boys do, etc) “well, what if you ARE actually a girl?” I don’t remember exactly how my therapy went, but I grew out of it, and actually don’t have any recollection of going to therapy for this in the first place (it was my teacher who had recommended it, and my parents told me later on that this had happened). I have many Trans adult friends who are out and proud but I wonder what would have happened if I was in Kindergarten today. Genuinely asking because I’m not sure how adult therapists dealing with these issues genuinely determine who to start on the process of transition vs weeding out those, who like me, end up growing out of it
I was similarly drawn to feminine things as a kid but grew out of it thanks to puberty. Puberty changes everything! Anyone who thinks blocking that natural progression from child to adult is a good idea must be next to brain dead.
I tend to think it's erroneous to believe that the LGBTQ covers all these people under one umbrella, I don't think there are that many Ls and Gs that necessarily agree with the Ts. Am I correct on this?
Gay guy here. I have never understood why trans is lumped in with gay. One is a sexuality, the other is completely different. Incedentally I wouldn't identify as part of toxic LGB(T+) "community."
The group gays against groomers is all about opposing this stuff
Glad to hear it!
Your experience is part of the historic norm - gender dysphoria/confusion used to occur predominantly in very young boys, who grew out of the phase and grew up to be gay (or straight), but very much male. The push for social transition and puberty blockers at such young ages effectively halts that natural and normal progression.