Congrats on your new arrival! 20 yrs ago I gave birth to my one and only child. It was a lousy pregnancy. I was sick the entire 9 months, all day every day. I managed to keep some things down but felt horrid most of the time. I also had restless leg syndrome, and depression because I felt so crappy all the time. I labored for 18 hrs, pus…
20 yrs ago I gave birth to my one and only child. It was a lousy pregnancy. I was sick the entire 9 months, all day every day. I managed to keep some things down but felt horrid most of the time. I also had restless leg syndrome, and depression because I felt so crappy all the time. I labored for 18 hrs, pushed for 2, then went in for a C-section. She was 9.3 lbs and I have a narrow pelvis/hip region. But she finally arrived and she was my little ball of sunshine. I never felt so much love and joy and know I never will. Not like that.
I tore my rotator cuff during this time. I came home with my infant and a script for 3 weeks of PT. Off I’d go, infant in carrier, between feedings, changes, naps, and on very little sleep I just did what I had to do.
I honestly believe because the pregnancy was so difficult and that was now over, other stuff did not seem so hard.
20 yrs later I was in the same hospital, in the trauma unit. Last Tues I a tractor trailer ran a red light at high speed and t-boned right into my driver side. I was pinned in the car. I have a fractured pelvis and 3 fractured lower vertebrae. 11 stitches in my arm. I’m using a Walker to get around.
That baby, now an adult is here helping to take care of me as I heal, along with my husband.
All I can do is thank God I survived and thank God for my family. I am suffering but they are here with me to help me get through it. My daughter had other plans for her spring break but chose to be by my side instead.
There’s the meaning behind my suffering an awful pregnancy and injury during delivery. There are others too. I am truly blessed and grateful and yet experiencing the worst pain right now and I did nothing to deserve it. But life doesn’t care.
I was told once by a Navy SEAL working as an instructor at BUD/S that in his view women in general have much higher pain tolerances than men. This is my own observation too.
Our scars, and the pain which caused them, make us who we are. And few things are sadder than making it to old age without any signs of wear. I myself have long been far beyond that danger.
It seems likely that sharing your story is making you feel a bit better--I really do think this is a positive use of the internet in general and comment boards like this in particular--and for my part I am glad to have the chance to wish you a speedy recovery, and commend you for a positive attitude.
Thank you for sharing your story. I was a part time caregiver for my mom a few days a week. She wanted to stay in her home, and I wanted that for her too. My older brother lived with her so she wasn't alone, and two others and their wives cared for her too, for years. I reminded myself to always count it a privilege to care for her, clean her bathrooms, etc. because someday I would not have that blessing. At 92, before she passed, she patted my hand lovingly and told me there was a reason I was born, and was so thankful for the help. She was my dear little friend, I loved her so much... I was the last of six and the only girl.
Thank you so much for sharing your amazing story! What a lovely daughter you have reared. May you have swift and complete healing and your pain subside quickly. God bless you and your daughter.
Congrats on your new arrival!
20 yrs ago I gave birth to my one and only child. It was a lousy pregnancy. I was sick the entire 9 months, all day every day. I managed to keep some things down but felt horrid most of the time. I also had restless leg syndrome, and depression because I felt so crappy all the time. I labored for 18 hrs, pushed for 2, then went in for a C-section. She was 9.3 lbs and I have a narrow pelvis/hip region. But she finally arrived and she was my little ball of sunshine. I never felt so much love and joy and know I never will. Not like that.
I tore my rotator cuff during this time. I came home with my infant and a script for 3 weeks of PT. Off I’d go, infant in carrier, between feedings, changes, naps, and on very little sleep I just did what I had to do.
I honestly believe because the pregnancy was so difficult and that was now over, other stuff did not seem so hard.
20 yrs later I was in the same hospital, in the trauma unit. Last Tues I a tractor trailer ran a red light at high speed and t-boned right into my driver side. I was pinned in the car. I have a fractured pelvis and 3 fractured lower vertebrae. 11 stitches in my arm. I’m using a Walker to get around.
That baby, now an adult is here helping to take care of me as I heal, along with my husband.
All I can do is thank God I survived and thank God for my family. I am suffering but they are here with me to help me get through it. My daughter had other plans for her spring break but chose to be by my side instead.
There’s the meaning behind my suffering an awful pregnancy and injury during delivery. There are others too. I am truly blessed and grateful and yet experiencing the worst pain right now and I did nothing to deserve it. But life doesn’t care.
Thank you everyone for the responses and well wishes. It means a lot. 🙏🏼❤️
You are an inspiration
Thank you for sharing your story! I hope you recover soon. <3
I was told once by a Navy SEAL working as an instructor at BUD/S that in his view women in general have much higher pain tolerances than men. This is my own observation too.
Our scars, and the pain which caused them, make us who we are. And few things are sadder than making it to old age without any signs of wear. I myself have long been far beyond that danger.
It seems likely that sharing your story is making you feel a bit better--I really do think this is a positive use of the internet in general and comment boards like this in particular--and for my part I am glad to have the chance to wish you a speedy recovery, and commend you for a positive attitude.
Thank you for sharing your story. I was a part time caregiver for my mom a few days a week. She wanted to stay in her home, and I wanted that for her too. My older brother lived with her so she wasn't alone, and two others and their wives cared for her too, for years. I reminded myself to always count it a privilege to care for her, clean her bathrooms, etc. because someday I would not have that blessing. At 92, before she passed, she patted my hand lovingly and told me there was a reason I was born, and was so thankful for the help. She was my dear little friend, I loved her so much... I was the last of six and the only girl.
Thank you so much for sharing your amazing story! What a lovely daughter you have reared. May you have swift and complete healing and your pain subside quickly. God bless you and your daughter.
I'm so sorry. Your experience sounds awful, but you have an inspiring attitude that will help you overcome it. Best wishes for a speedy recovery.
Wow what an awful experience. Bless you for finding fortune and gratitude in your experiences.
Giving thanks for your healing and family 🙏
Wow! I think you will recover quickly, because of your approach and gratitude. Best wishes for a speedy recovery.
Thank you for sharing with us. Beauty from the ashes.
God bless you and God speed on your recovery.
Thank you for sharing this.
Wow. Beautiful story. Thanks for sharing. Get well soon.