Get a puppy!
Then take it — not your earbuds and iPhone — for a walk.
I know of a beautiful young woman who some day wants a large family, something north of 1.6 kids. She’s used multiple sites, including Christian Mingle. Inevitably, the budding relationships come down to “the talk.”
This woman is traditional. Sex is special, not somethi…
Then take it — not your earbuds and iPhone — for a walk.
I know of a beautiful young woman who some day wants a large family, something north of 1.6 kids. She’s used multiple sites, including Christian Mingle. Inevitably, the budding relationships come down to “the talk.”
This woman is traditional. Sex is special, not something you toss out. She wants to wait, ideally till marriage. If not then, at least until she and he are committed to something more than a common interest in craft beers. This is an intelligent, funny, educated woman who teaches little kids, loves baseball, good books, music, board games, politics, cooking, and people. She wants a mate, not a hookup. Needless to say, she’s still very single.
We, the Boomers and beyond, have destroyed every institution that made long-term, monogamous relationships something to be desired and nurtured. Marriage. Church. Family. Friendship. Community. Schools. All have been damaged (irreparably?) or rejiggered into machines that pump out robotic narcissists. I’ve heard one sage man say our world is now a billion little bubbles of Ego. They collide and burst because no one can understand why the other can’t or won’t do things his or her way. That old “my way or the highway” thing.
There is a way to fix this. Relegate technology to its rightful role of servant not master. Recognized you’re going to get hurt. (But, hey, the way I see it, the current system, like an opiate, is destroying you.) Then get out and meet your future face to face.
Great advice, assuming people will be responsible and commit to having a dog and not just get bored and dump the dog in the shelter after a year.
I can’t count the number of conversations we’ve had with people just because we had our dog with us. A cute dog is definitely an entry point to meeting all kinds of people out in meatspace.
Yeah, that is a good point. I have a Newfoundland which is a definite huge commitment. I would amend my advice to get a puppy, but research well and get the type of puppy that best fits your lifestyle and your capabilities of care. Even researching to find the best type of puppy can totally be a way to meet people, too
All of those end with me insisting no, they do *not* want a Siberian.
All dogs need attention but Sibes are a universe unto themselves and most people simply will not put in the time required to have a healthy, well behaved Sibe.
“The people are unhappy, the dog is unhappy and it doesn’t end well. DON’T DO IT TO THE DOG OR YOURSELF!”
Yeah, we, the Siberians are moody cuz we got Dostoevsky in our bones. 🤣🤣I m just kidding.
Russians rarely agree on anything between themselves, but one thing seems to have an overwhelming agreement among all Russians: the Siberians (the people), are special.
No, I haven’t. I have never heard of him and just looked him up. His is one of the millions tragic fates in that area at those times. I was born in the USSR and I was twelve years old when it collapsed. That’s when numerous memories like Cizchek’s poured from the pages of mass media into our lives and people started opening up..
My husband was born in Tadzhikistan, the Muslim Soviet republic next to Afghanistan. His neighbor was an elderly lady who spoke perfect English. She taught him since his early childhood in the end of 1960s-early 1970s. She was the wife of the “enemy of the people” that was an oficial Soviet label for relatives of those who were sent to Gulag. Those relatives were not allowed to settle in major cities or take important positions, only the simplest of jobs. Aand they were sent to the outskirts of the USSR. Her case was particularly hard cause her husband was a Brit who believed in communists. She lived with him in UK until he decided to come to USSR to build communism. He ended up in Gulag. She - in Tadzhikistan. I don’t think they ever saw each other again. I often think of her because she gave my husband a gift of perfect English while he was a simple Soviet child and an enormous competitive advantage when he arrived to the US in 1989. But I haven’t ever heard of Ciczek. Bless his soul….
Wowwww… These are stories we all NEED to hear… every American school kid saw presentations from survivors of Nazi horror camps, and Hollywood made dozens of excellent movies to warn us about them…but NO ONE educated us— about as much as YOU were!!!— on the horrors of Communism!! So today we have millions of young, overeducated for their intelligence lunatics, fighting for a nightmare they think is a romantic dream, egged on by ignoramus academics who never lived in the real world. WE NEED TO HEAR YOUR STORIES.
Yeah, I remember Fr. Ciszek wrote how he was barred from moving here or there after his release (forget about returning to the US, his family thought he was dead) But he had a blessed happy ending— after 23 years he was swapped for spies and returned home— he was to be President JFK’s next appointment upon his unfated return from Dallas in 1963— a gift for us because the memoirs he wrote have blessed millions with the spiritual fruits he reaped from his tremendous suffering and apparent abandonment by God (he never was, actually).
Please read his books… he is going to be a saint one day… his writings awakened in my soul a deeper love for God in my own sufferings. God bless you!! Thank you for sharing. I can imagine hearing these stories would give horrible pain for those who lived there among them.
It's funny, but I got my first puppy almost two years ago at the ripe old age of 43. I already have the husband, the house, the kids, the career. I just wanted the puppy, lol. However, walking her and bringing out and about has been eye opening. I have met and had nice conversations with all sorts of people I never would have spoken to before. Plus, anyone who doesn't think my dog is cute is not worth my time. Since all this started, I couldn't help but think that having a dog must be a great way to meet people. I love my husband, but I bet I could have found him earlier if I had the dog in my single years. Best advice ever is to get a puppy!!
I agree with your dad. I spent my middle school years studying dogs behavior and training techniques. Since then after all the degrees etc, I often think that was the most useful use of my time and academic concentration… 😊
Get a puppy!
Then take it — not your earbuds and iPhone — for a walk.
I know of a beautiful young woman who some day wants a large family, something north of 1.6 kids. She’s used multiple sites, including Christian Mingle. Inevitably, the budding relationships come down to “the talk.”
This woman is traditional. Sex is special, not something you toss out. She wants to wait, ideally till marriage. If not then, at least until she and he are committed to something more than a common interest in craft beers. This is an intelligent, funny, educated woman who teaches little kids, loves baseball, good books, music, board games, politics, cooking, and people. She wants a mate, not a hookup. Needless to say, she’s still very single.
We, the Boomers and beyond, have destroyed every institution that made long-term, monogamous relationships something to be desired and nurtured. Marriage. Church. Family. Friendship. Community. Schools. All have been damaged (irreparably?) or rejiggered into machines that pump out robotic narcissists. I’ve heard one sage man say our world is now a billion little bubbles of Ego. They collide and burst because no one can understand why the other can’t or won’t do things his or her way. That old “my way or the highway” thing.
There is a way to fix this. Relegate technology to its rightful role of servant not master. Recognized you’re going to get hurt. (But, hey, the way I see it, the current system, like an opiate, is destroying you.) Then get out and meet your future face to face.
Get a puppy!
Great advice, assuming people will be responsible and commit to having a dog and not just get bored and dump the dog in the shelter after a year.
I can’t count the number of conversations we’ve had with people just because we had our dog with us. A cute dog is definitely an entry point to meeting all kinds of people out in meatspace.
Yeah, that is a good point. I have a Newfoundland which is a definite huge commitment. I would amend my advice to get a puppy, but research well and get the type of puppy that best fits your lifestyle and your capabilities of care. Even researching to find the best type of puppy can totally be a way to meet people, too
All of those end with me insisting no, they do *not* want a Siberian.
All dogs need attention but Sibes are a universe unto themselves and most people simply will not put in the time required to have a healthy, well behaved Sibe.
“The people are unhappy, the dog is unhappy and it doesn’t end well. DON’T DO IT TO THE DOG OR YOURSELF!”
Yeah, we, the Siberians are moody cuz we got Dostoevsky in our bones. 🤣🤣I m just kidding.
Russians rarely agree on anything between themselves, but one thing seems to have an overwhelming agreement among all Russians: the Siberians (the people), are special.
Have you ever read “With God in Russia”? Gave me a deep personal connection with Siberia spiritually because the hero is from my mom’s native corner!
No, I haven’t. I have never heard of him and just looked him up. His is one of the millions tragic fates in that area at those times. I was born in the USSR and I was twelve years old when it collapsed. That’s when numerous memories like Cizchek’s poured from the pages of mass media into our lives and people started opening up..
My husband was born in Tadzhikistan, the Muslim Soviet republic next to Afghanistan. His neighbor was an elderly lady who spoke perfect English. She taught him since his early childhood in the end of 1960s-early 1970s. She was the wife of the “enemy of the people” that was an oficial Soviet label for relatives of those who were sent to Gulag. Those relatives were not allowed to settle in major cities or take important positions, only the simplest of jobs. Aand they were sent to the outskirts of the USSR. Her case was particularly hard cause her husband was a Brit who believed in communists. She lived with him in UK until he decided to come to USSR to build communism. He ended up in Gulag. She - in Tadzhikistan. I don’t think they ever saw each other again. I often think of her because she gave my husband a gift of perfect English while he was a simple Soviet child and an enormous competitive advantage when he arrived to the US in 1989. But I haven’t ever heard of Ciczek. Bless his soul….
Wowwww… These are stories we all NEED to hear… every American school kid saw presentations from survivors of Nazi horror camps, and Hollywood made dozens of excellent movies to warn us about them…but NO ONE educated us— about as much as YOU were!!!— on the horrors of Communism!! So today we have millions of young, overeducated for their intelligence lunatics, fighting for a nightmare they think is a romantic dream, egged on by ignoramus academics who never lived in the real world. WE NEED TO HEAR YOUR STORIES.
Yeah, I remember Fr. Ciszek wrote how he was barred from moving here or there after his release (forget about returning to the US, his family thought he was dead) But he had a blessed happy ending— after 23 years he was swapped for spies and returned home— he was to be President JFK’s next appointment upon his unfated return from Dallas in 1963— a gift for us because the memoirs he wrote have blessed millions with the spiritual fruits he reaped from his tremendous suffering and apparent abandonment by God (he never was, actually).
Please read his books… he is going to be a saint one day… his writings awakened in my soul a deeper love for God in my own sufferings. God bless you!! Thank you for sharing. I can imagine hearing these stories would give horrible pain for those who lived there among them.
It's funny, but I got my first puppy almost two years ago at the ripe old age of 43. I already have the husband, the house, the kids, the career. I just wanted the puppy, lol. However, walking her and bringing out and about has been eye opening. I have met and had nice conversations with all sorts of people I never would have spoken to before. Plus, anyone who doesn't think my dog is cute is not worth my time. Since all this started, I couldn't help but think that having a dog must be a great way to meet people. I love my husband, but I bet I could have found him earlier if I had the dog in my single years. Best advice ever is to get a puppy!!
My dad used to say every man should train a dog before having kids.
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I agree with your dad. I spent my middle school years studying dogs behavior and training techniques. Since then after all the degrees etc, I often think that was the most useful use of my time and academic concentration… 😊
Dogs and monkeys are very different animals.
True. But the patience, diligence and other-over-self qualities required to train a dog to retrieve or whatever come in handy with kids.