Social media has exacerbated the notion that "perfection" is the only answer when it comes to relationships. It's sort of like the old high school thought process where every girl desires the captain of the football team, and every guy wants the head cheerleader -- except on steroids.
Social media has exacerbated the notion that "perfection" is the only answer when it comes to relationships. It's sort of like the old high school thought process where every girl desires the captain of the football team, and every guy wants the head cheerleader -- except on steroids.
I have an acquaintance who teaches at the college level. Her observation is that sweet, decent kids (especially girls) are so driven by social media to seek out perfection that they ignore the sweet, decent guys sitting next to them in the classroom. She sees this happening at all levels, from middle school through grad school.
Now add in the social pressures promoting a hook-up culture, and the thought process spewed by mass media that long-term relationships and marriage are bad, and the result is a decline in society that's becoming increasingly evident.
Exactly this. 90% of people are trying to date the top 10% most desirable matches, and I have to think that it is because those 10% are easily accessible to everyone on dating apps. It seems like this has really skewed people’s preferences and behavior.
That mostly affects women, statistically. There was a recent study which analyzed the differences between male and female behavior on Tinder. The study demonstrated the men liked 61.9% of women on Tinder and women liked 4.5% of men on Tinder.
Those 4.5% of men end up with something of a feeding frenzy on their hands, so they can date multiple women at a time and ghost girls they get tired of. Those girls getting cheated on and ghosted tend to wind up pretty resentful of men in general.
Wow. That resonates so well with the experience of my gorgeous Lawyer niece. She is now 35 and has finally settled with a divorced father of two. After so many years of dating and being cheated on she started looking in a different pool.
(And they met, by chance, waiting to be seated at a restaurant).
I feel sad for the young adults of today.
Social media has exacerbated the notion that "perfection" is the only answer when it comes to relationships. It's sort of like the old high school thought process where every girl desires the captain of the football team, and every guy wants the head cheerleader -- except on steroids.
I have an acquaintance who teaches at the college level. Her observation is that sweet, decent kids (especially girls) are so driven by social media to seek out perfection that they ignore the sweet, decent guys sitting next to them in the classroom. She sees this happening at all levels, from middle school through grad school.
Now add in the social pressures promoting a hook-up culture, and the thought process spewed by mass media that long-term relationships and marriage are bad, and the result is a decline in society that's becoming increasingly evident.
Exactly this. 90% of people are trying to date the top 10% most desirable matches, and I have to think that it is because those 10% are easily accessible to everyone on dating apps. It seems like this has really skewed people’s preferences and behavior.
That mostly affects women, statistically. There was a recent study which analyzed the differences between male and female behavior on Tinder. The study demonstrated the men liked 61.9% of women on Tinder and women liked 4.5% of men on Tinder.
Those 4.5% of men end up with something of a feeding frenzy on their hands, so they can date multiple women at a time and ghost girls they get tired of. Those girls getting cheated on and ghosted tend to wind up pretty resentful of men in general.
Wow. That resonates so well with the experience of my gorgeous Lawyer niece. She is now 35 and has finally settled with a divorced father of two. After so many years of dating and being cheated on she started looking in a different pool.
(And they met, by chance, waiting to be seated at a restaurant).