Issue of young people being lonely is runs very deep in our society. One of main reasons is that notion of family and marriage, taking next step in life with a partner has been demonized and obstructed on every corner.
For last 30 years young men are being told, that only way to measure his worth, is his net worth, and any other tradition…
Issue of young people being lonely is runs very deep in our society. One of main reasons is that notion of family and marriage, taking next step in life with a partner has been demonized and obstructed on every corner.
For last 30 years young men are being told, that only way to measure his worth, is his net worth, and any other traditional values are worthless and useless.
Young women are told to having family and kids is nightmare from middle ages and that only way for woman to be liberated from oppressive patriarchy is to be speding 24/7 grinding in some corporate offices and to change partners more often than socks. Sadly in many cases when women realize that traditional values are not the enemy, in many cases biological clock has taken his toil.
For those, who forgoe above mentioned brainwash, they find that cards are stacked extremly against them. Buying home for young couples has become a nightmare in itself, housing is unaffordable across the country, rents are skyrocketing. Young moms in Hospitals are being called "birthing persons", further dehumanizing such important societal role.
Then daycare for children, is in some areas so expensive, that one partner has only work to pay for it.
When kids are ready for school, nightmare continues, those same forces that are telling young women not to have kids and families, for some reason are very interested in having their say what kids should learn in school (it seem that they follow old saying "get them while they are young").
Similar issues continue in university.
After seeing all this, only crazy person would want family or any kind of commitment, we have come to a situation, where all cards are stacked against young couples, while universities, social media and MSM are all yelling in one voice that any traditional values are bad.
Raziel, you’re a typical woke culture warrior sitting upon your perch of judgment, making declarations without proof to back them up. Existing in a cloister of cohort culture warriors, all sitting upon their perches, pontificating to each other, none think to question each other for fear of banishment. Your primary thesis is: that marriage and family have been demonized; where is the proof? I don’t have high expectations, but I like surprises, so please provide facts to support your thesis.
I think you have stated the problem well (I was searching for a way to do it so thank you), only I remain more optimistic. Pendulums swing and then they swing back. I think we might be due for a swing...
"When kids are ready for school, nightmare continues, those same forces that are telling young women not to have kids and families, for some reason are very interested in having their say what kids should learn in school (it seem that they follow old saying "get them while they are young")."
Yes! Then, at school your daughter will be informed that she might not even be a girl, that if she likes boys she could even be a gay boy herself! All these forces are so destructive it is hard not to feel that it is intentional, but is it? I don't know.
Everybody experiences hopelessness, but hopelessness is not the end of the line. Look at it, go beyond it, trial and error, one step at a time, get angry with the spiritual world and then wait for some kind of answer, take yourself on a trudging walk, be willing through clenched teeth to forgive yourself and others, and on and on... Just don't be willing to let hopelessness reign. And give yourself a sincere pat on the back. You are worth it.
TY, Anne B. Haha! Right You are. I had a hard time forgiving myself for a long while. It was *awful.*
And, as it happens, I'm listening to a CD this week that's concentrating on experiencing GRATITUDE. I got a *loooong* Way to go on it. But what gratitude does is help You become more trusting of people and the future.
This and the things You mention are *acquired* skills, AFAIK. And the way they come is by practicing them. And the first step in practice is to *try* them out, if You haven't already, right?
My German grandmother thought it worthwhile to bring up children despite living during the Nazi period. You cannot get too much of a worse time than that.
Issue of young people being lonely is runs very deep in our society. One of main reasons is that notion of family and marriage, taking next step in life with a partner has been demonized and obstructed on every corner.
For last 30 years young men are being told, that only way to measure his worth, is his net worth, and any other traditional values are worthless and useless.
Young women are told to having family and kids is nightmare from middle ages and that only way for woman to be liberated from oppressive patriarchy is to be speding 24/7 grinding in some corporate offices and to change partners more often than socks. Sadly in many cases when women realize that traditional values are not the enemy, in many cases biological clock has taken his toil.
For those, who forgoe above mentioned brainwash, they find that cards are stacked extremly against them. Buying home for young couples has become a nightmare in itself, housing is unaffordable across the country, rents are skyrocketing. Young moms in Hospitals are being called "birthing persons", further dehumanizing such important societal role.
Then daycare for children, is in some areas so expensive, that one partner has only work to pay for it.
When kids are ready for school, nightmare continues, those same forces that are telling young women not to have kids and families, for some reason are very interested in having their say what kids should learn in school (it seem that they follow old saying "get them while they are young").
Similar issues continue in university.
After seeing all this, only crazy person would want family or any kind of commitment, we have come to a situation, where all cards are stacked against young couples, while universities, social media and MSM are all yelling in one voice that any traditional values are bad.
Excellent post!!
Raziel, you’re a typical woke culture warrior sitting upon your perch of judgment, making declarations without proof to back them up. Existing in a cloister of cohort culture warriors, all sitting upon their perches, pontificating to each other, none think to question each other for fear of banishment. Your primary thesis is: that marriage and family have been demonized; where is the proof? I don’t have high expectations, but I like surprises, so please provide facts to support your thesis.
I think you have stated the problem well (I was searching for a way to do it so thank you), only I remain more optimistic. Pendulums swing and then they swing back. I think we might be due for a swing...
"When kids are ready for school, nightmare continues, those same forces that are telling young women not to have kids and families, for some reason are very interested in having their say what kids should learn in school (it seem that they follow old saying "get them while they are young")."
Yes! Then, at school your daughter will be informed that she might not even be a girl, that if she likes boys she could even be a gay boy herself! All these forces are so destructive it is hard not to feel that it is intentional, but is it? I don't know.
a lot of this true, but there is also family and plenty of sons and daughters understand and see how positive to could be.
You're not wrong, Raziel. But You imply there's no hope. I guess it's just my nature lately to choose not to believe that.
I agree with you completely, jt.
Everybody experiences hopelessness, but hopelessness is not the end of the line. Look at it, go beyond it, trial and error, one step at a time, get angry with the spiritual world and then wait for some kind of answer, take yourself on a trudging walk, be willing through clenched teeth to forgive yourself and others, and on and on... Just don't be willing to let hopelessness reign. And give yourself a sincere pat on the back. You are worth it.
TY, Anne B. Haha! Right You are. I had a hard time forgiving myself for a long while. It was *awful.*
And, as it happens, I'm listening to a CD this week that's concentrating on experiencing GRATITUDE. I got a *loooong* Way to go on it. But what gratitude does is help You become more trusting of people and the future.
This and the things You mention are *acquired* skills, AFAIK. And the way they come is by practicing them. And the first step in practice is to *try* them out, if You haven't already, right?
My German grandmother thought it worthwhile to bring up children despite living during the Nazi period. You cannot get too much of a worse time than that.
So true!
Phew. I guess that's why they're known as the Greatest Generation.
*Acquired* is the right word!