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Haven’t listened yet but have lived two and a half terrible years with a manic depressive who refused to take medication.

That period of my life ended with my fleeing the state with my kids as far as I could go without needing a passport. (Because he hasn’t seen or spoken to them since they’re *my kids not ours.)

I don’t recommend the experience.

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I’m listening to the episode with deBoer and he said that the loss of people in his life weighs heavily on him. His recognition that those people made the right choice is a sad truth.

I wonder if my ex ever reached that point.

While pregnant with her first child my daughter attempted to establish contact with her biological father. He refused. At that time I assumed he’s still in that hyper-self centered place but now I wonder if at age 50 he believes she’s better off not knowing him.

I might send the deBoer episode to my daughter.

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Both Bari and Ben are wrong about cancer.

Cancer cells exist completely unknown until the number of cancerous cells is at a sufficient volume to affect physical function, which then results in the person seeking medical care for the symptoms.

Cancer isn’t a sick or well situation. Many people are walking around feeling perfectly fine with no knowledge that in two months they’ll be at death’s door.

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Oops Daniel not Ben.

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The failure to “cure” psychiatric illness does not mean there are no psychiatric illnesses to cure.

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Oh hell no. There is no way I’m going to ever agree that my ex-husband’s behaviors were in any way acceptable. He held a loaded shotgun to my chest with my newborn right there and said he’d kill me because I wasn’t being cooperative.

The manic phases always ended in violence with him. ALWAYS.

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