American kids are the freest, most privileged kids in all of history. They are also the saddest, most anxious, depressed, and medicated generation on record. Nearly a third of teen girls say they have seriously considered suicide. For boys, that number is an alarming 14 percent.
Abigail Shrier is inspiring. I heard that therapists get in trouble if they fail to identify trauma caused by “children born in the wrong body”. Yesterday I received a DoNoHarm email about adult patients who are told they suffer if not seen by a same-race medical provider. Yet, Oct 7 is not recognized as trauma. Crazy. The upside of a “traumatic event” is the unparalleled learning of one’s resilience and emergency skills. I was initially traumatized in 2019 when fighting DEI alone. But the trauma made me smarter, tougher and meaner. By meaner - a sharper pen, rather than sword.
First of all as a Therapist, quit swinging an ax at my business model. The cultural norm of everyone going to therapy is working out quite well for me. In all honesty Liberals seek too much therapy and Republicans don’t do it enough. As with everything in 2024 there is a political divide.
A Boy Named Sue by Johnny Cash
“
And he said, "Son, this world is rough
And if a man's gonna make it, he's gotta be tough
And I knew I wouldn't be there to help you along
So I give you that name and I said goodbye
I knew you'd have to get tough or die
And it's that name that helped to make you strong"
“
A song where a dad gives his son a girls name before walking out on him and his mother.
This all used to be common knowledge until one day some people that went to college realized they knew better than everyone who ever lived throughout time. Naturally all the other college educated people followed suit.
Perhaps "American kids are,,, the saddest, most anxious, depressed, and medicated generation on record" due to the intensive, mendacious fear-mongering (the principal element of the Leftist indoctrination taking place in K-12 education) regarding anthropogenic climate change, white supremacy, promotion of non-conventional sexual identities, the impending Republican-led destruction of American democracy, etc., etc., ad nauseum.
I was sitting with my 5 year old daughter tonight wondering how to thank Ms. Shrier for her courage in writing these two books. Her closing comments about the personal cost of writing truth really struck a cord with me.
Dear Ms. Shrier, Sometimes there's just no fancy way to say something. So let me just say it -
Thank You for your courage and willingness to speak the truth, no matter the personal cost. The children in my life will benefit from your efforts.
This is a wonderful episode of the Honestly podcast. However, there is a bit more to the story. We're also falsely telling our children that climate change is going to kill them in a few years and there are fascists under every rock, so there is no hope. That's totally bonkers. Climate change is totally manageable and the Dems are more fascist than Trump. That's the truth. And that's what kids need to hear.
But beyond that, faith is missing. Faith in the future. Faith in God. Transcendence will set you free. Maybe our kids need to have Bob Dylan's entire catalog streamed into their AirPods in an infinite loop. It should start with Neighborhood Bully and finish with False Prophet.
I think everyone on the planet should read this article. Hits the nail on the head. Thank you so much for all the work you do at The Free Press and bravo to Abigail Shrier.
News flash! American kids aren't the "freest" kids in all of history. You, like most people of your ilk, have confused solipsism with freedom, selfishness with liberty, sloth with agency and ignorance with thinking. American kids are enslaved by their own solipsism, selfishness, sloth and ignorance. They are possibly the LEAST FREE group that has ever lived...
And yes, Bari, like it or not, the Democratic Party helped forge the chains...
Nicely done, the nationwide Milgram experiment has yielded fruit... now run along to some elite group of pearl-clutching-wine-sippers and have a chat about what "we can do" to fix what others have fucked up...
But NEVER, never, never, never acknowledge that conservatives have been sounding the alarm for more than a generation. Never do that.
I read a story about Hilary Clinton. When she was a child, the kids in the playground were teasing and bullying her. She ran home crying to her mother, who refused to let her in the house. She told Hilary to go back there and stand up to the bullies. She turned out OK.
[Time 41:00]; “Gentle Parenting” where parent reasons with child as if “a little adult”. Human brain development reaches completion at age 22-ish. APA probably has a poster with diagrams showing infant, toddler, pre-school, primary school, puberty, adulthood (I made up these categories). At each stage of development, child is able to comprehend greater complexity and abstraction. This is why parents tell the 4-year old that the family dog went to live on a farm where he can play all day long and chase rabbits. Younger children cannot be reasoned with.
One part of the ACES is misrepresented childhood trauma doesn’t directly lead to poor outcomes in adulthood. It CAN lead to BEHAVIORS that are harmful in adulthood. The ACES screening is also validating for people who are minimizing their childhood abuse. The person who tells themselves that getting beaten every week by their dad wasn’t noteworthy frankly needs a wake up call. Otherwise they can go onto to accept physical abuse from romantic partners in adulthood or all other sorts of things.
That being said, steel is forged in fire. If you can get through a legitimately traumatic childhood falling into addiction .etc it makes you stronger. Theres a reason many champions in MMA and Boxing did not have an easy start to life.
Abigail hits a lot of nails squarely on the head. Super interesting podcast/discussion which I promptly sent to friends/family who have young children. My kids are in their 20s, and so far/so good - we were always considered and believed ourselves to be on the stricter side (family computer in the family room only, dinner together every nite that was possible, jobs at 15-16, chores at home, real consequences to bad behavior (NO sleepovers for my son starting at age 15-16 until he left for college-imagine how popular we were!?). Without much thought, I can come up with several examples of friends/neighbors who have adult children who are struggling - no goals, career, one didn't get a driver's license til age 20 (suburban kid), few real friends, two who were in therapy for suicidality, and on and on. Its heartbreaking to see this, as kids are the product of their upbringing. Today, I see entire families out to dinner all staring at phones. Something needs to change and I hope parents listen and/or read. Thanks Bari for the great interview.
[Time 40:00]; Gentle parenting and children. After hearing the example Shrier gave about parent asking questions to disobedient toddler, I wonder if children are pressured into being over-analytical beyond their mental abilities. That scares me.
Abigail Shrier is inspiring. I heard that therapists get in trouble if they fail to identify trauma caused by “children born in the wrong body”. Yesterday I received a DoNoHarm email about adult patients who are told they suffer if not seen by a same-race medical provider. Yet, Oct 7 is not recognized as trauma. Crazy. The upside of a “traumatic event” is the unparalleled learning of one’s resilience and emergency skills. I was initially traumatized in 2019 when fighting DEI alone. But the trauma made me smarter, tougher and meaner. By meaner - a sharper pen, rather than sword.
First of all as a Therapist, quit swinging an ax at my business model. The cultural norm of everyone going to therapy is working out quite well for me. In all honesty Liberals seek too much therapy and Republicans don’t do it enough. As with everything in 2024 there is a political divide.
A Boy Named Sue by Johnny Cash
“
And he said, "Son, this world is rough
And if a man's gonna make it, he's gotta be tough
And I knew I wouldn't be there to help you along
So I give you that name and I said goodbye
I knew you'd have to get tough or die
And it's that name that helped to make you strong"
“
A song where a dad gives his son a girls name before walking out on him and his mother.
This all used to be common knowledge until one day some people that went to college realized they knew better than everyone who ever lived throughout time. Naturally all the other college educated people followed suit.
Perhaps "American kids are,,, the saddest, most anxious, depressed, and medicated generation on record" due to the intensive, mendacious fear-mongering (the principal element of the Leftist indoctrination taking place in K-12 education) regarding anthropogenic climate change, white supremacy, promotion of non-conventional sexual identities, the impending Republican-led destruction of American democracy, etc., etc., ad nauseum.
I was sitting with my 5 year old daughter tonight wondering how to thank Ms. Shrier for her courage in writing these two books. Her closing comments about the personal cost of writing truth really struck a cord with me.
Dear Ms. Shrier, Sometimes there's just no fancy way to say something. So let me just say it -
Thank You for your courage and willingness to speak the truth, no matter the personal cost. The children in my life will benefit from your efforts.
This is a wonderful episode of the Honestly podcast. However, there is a bit more to the story. We're also falsely telling our children that climate change is going to kill them in a few years and there are fascists under every rock, so there is no hope. That's totally bonkers. Climate change is totally manageable and the Dems are more fascist than Trump. That's the truth. And that's what kids need to hear.
But beyond that, faith is missing. Faith in the future. Faith in God. Transcendence will set you free. Maybe our kids need to have Bob Dylan's entire catalog streamed into their AirPods in an infinite loop. It should start with Neighborhood Bully and finish with False Prophet.
I think everyone on the planet should read this article. Hits the nail on the head. Thank you so much for all the work you do at The Free Press and bravo to Abigail Shrier.
Also... these "well-intentioned practices by well-intentioned people" is the dumbest, laziest fucking assertion I have ever heard.
There was never anything well-intentioned by this shit, these people or these efforts. This has been done intentionally to FUCK kids up.
Hi Bari...
News flash! American kids aren't the "freest" kids in all of history. You, like most people of your ilk, have confused solipsism with freedom, selfishness with liberty, sloth with agency and ignorance with thinking. American kids are enslaved by their own solipsism, selfishness, sloth and ignorance. They are possibly the LEAST FREE group that has ever lived...
And yes, Bari, like it or not, the Democratic Party helped forge the chains...
Nicely done, the nationwide Milgram experiment has yielded fruit... now run along to some elite group of pearl-clutching-wine-sippers and have a chat about what "we can do" to fix what others have fucked up...
But NEVER, never, never, never acknowledge that conservatives have been sounding the alarm for more than a generation. Never do that.
I read a story about Hilary Clinton. When she was a child, the kids in the playground were teasing and bullying her. She ran home crying to her mother, who refused to let her in the house. She told Hilary to go back there and stand up to the bullies. She turned out OK.
[Time 41:00]; “Gentle Parenting” where parent reasons with child as if “a little adult”. Human brain development reaches completion at age 22-ish. APA probably has a poster with diagrams showing infant, toddler, pre-school, primary school, puberty, adulthood (I made up these categories). At each stage of development, child is able to comprehend greater complexity and abstraction. This is why parents tell the 4-year old that the family dog went to live on a farm where he can play all day long and chase rabbits. Younger children cannot be reasoned with.
The "Better Help" advertisement during this episode seems to play directly to the idea of seeking therapy to cope with normal life events.
One part of the ACES is misrepresented childhood trauma doesn’t directly lead to poor outcomes in adulthood. It CAN lead to BEHAVIORS that are harmful in adulthood. The ACES screening is also validating for people who are minimizing their childhood abuse. The person who tells themselves that getting beaten every week by their dad wasn’t noteworthy frankly needs a wake up call. Otherwise they can go onto to accept physical abuse from romantic partners in adulthood or all other sorts of things.
That being said, steel is forged in fire. If you can get through a legitimately traumatic childhood falling into addiction .etc it makes you stronger. Theres a reason many champions in MMA and Boxing did not have an easy start to life.
Abigail hits a lot of nails squarely on the head. Super interesting podcast/discussion which I promptly sent to friends/family who have young children. My kids are in their 20s, and so far/so good - we were always considered and believed ourselves to be on the stricter side (family computer in the family room only, dinner together every nite that was possible, jobs at 15-16, chores at home, real consequences to bad behavior (NO sleepovers for my son starting at age 15-16 until he left for college-imagine how popular we were!?). Without much thought, I can come up with several examples of friends/neighbors who have adult children who are struggling - no goals, career, one didn't get a driver's license til age 20 (suburban kid), few real friends, two who were in therapy for suicidality, and on and on. Its heartbreaking to see this, as kids are the product of their upbringing. Today, I see entire families out to dinner all staring at phones. Something needs to change and I hope parents listen and/or read. Thanks Bari for the great interview.
[Time 40:00]; Gentle parenting and children. After hearing the example Shrier gave about parent asking questions to disobedient toddler, I wonder if children are pressured into being over-analytical beyond their mental abilities. That scares me.
I’m proud to say I never followed my daughter’s homework nor did I help with homework. That was her job and she managed.
Jon Haidt has been on this train for a decade. The Coddling of the American Mind. Meshugah.