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Wow! What a refreshing interview. I love her view on everything. Thank you so much!!!!

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And…sooo…having raised millions for Democrats and their causes, and yet appalled at the outcome (Gascon, Bragg, Willis, Boudin), her recommendations to restore order to our once-great American cities are…? I’m left to wonder

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This is THE BEST THING I have ever read in TFP.

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This woman is so awesome! I love her attitude and take my hat off to her and her discipline. She had a wonderful Mother and Dad, and she learned from everything they taught her. I hope and pray that people listen to her and learn from her, because she is truly a wise person and an inspiration for all. Most of us could never live up to her standards when it comes to forgiveness. She is what Martin Luther King preached for all black people to aspire to when he said that one day he hoped that all people would be judged by the content of their character, and not by the color of their skin. She truly embodies the idea of "If it is to be, it is up to me." And lives it every day. God Bless her and her family.

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an extraordinary soul.

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Really enjoyed Nicole Avant’s perspective on our shared humanity and need to look out for one another. I have always considered myself one who would step in and help/defend anyone being harmed but after reading so many stories of people being prosecuted for self-defense, I started having second thoughts. Thank you Nicole for reminding me that we need to stand up for one another. It is not okay to ignore or walk away!

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Parts of the transcription are mis-transcribed, but all in all, a great piece. If you've got the time, listen to the audio.

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LOVE THIS!

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This was pretty good. But it wasn't really about "forgiveness." Ms. Avant just took the sensible path of not letting her Mom's murderer become her obsession. If fact, she properly noted "I don’t give a shit about him at all." I think the most telling part of the entire interview was the anecdote about not one of the white, progressive BLM idiots thanking her for holding open the door; or even really seeing her, at all. Speaks volumes about these narcissistic, virtue signaling, racist morons.

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Her story is an American story: hardship, love, dreams, family, responsibility, perseverance. What a journey and a blessing to the memories of her parents…

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Scary to read. She can again become a “winner” if her husband or her children are killed. Or maybe her children will become such winners if they kill or rape her?

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Bari, this interview was beautiful. Great subject, yes, but your interview skills were also magnificently displayed.

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Brilliant!! Never succumb to being a victim! I had a good friend who had overcome brain cancer. When I referred to him as a "Cancer Survivor" he quashed my comment and said he refused to be defined by his illness. I think this is an important thing for all of us to remember! Kudos to Nicole! And her refusal to waste energy on hating her mother's murderer is a testament to her mother (and father)'s legacy. They raised her right, and we all can follow this example in our lives!

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I really loved this piece. Nicole Avant is so right about so many things. Her comment about the lady who gets a ticket for her hedge being two inches too high but the cops can't do anything about the guy who shoots up and defecates in front of someone's house really hit home.

One thing: her definition of forgiveness. "Nicole, take your attention off of a situation that you can no longer change, off of a person that you do not know and you do not respect. He doesn’t deserve your energy. He doesn’t deserve your time."

I don't know that that's really forgiveness; it's more a decision to move away from fury. She doesn't respect her mother's murderer. That sounds right to me, and more sensible than pretending he's good at heart and can be reformed. "Forgiveness" suggests that the murderer himself can now move forward. Avant actually doesn't care if he does or not.

After a funeral, the Greeks say "Life to us." It's the only way although the expression can, at the time, seem mechanical and unfeeling.

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"Black" lives matter states that the demise of the nuclear family is part of their manifesto. How ironic is it that Nicole held the door open and then succinctly said that, "you are bleeping welcome!" I could have hugged her at that moment.

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I didn't know your Mom and Dad, but they raised you right. They imbued you with compassion and common sense. I enjoyed every word, but especially your Dad's title to his book. Thanks for making my day a little better.

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