This is why, for guys like me who only sleep with married women (if she gets pregnant, it’s “his” problem), online dating is a godsend….
Bring on the unhappy, lonely trophy wives who all were married via checklist. When you treat relationships like a job interview, there will always be slots for temps like me.
I think Whitney is missing something very important - the secret of successful dating.
And I'm going to give it to all of you for free. No request for payments through Western Union or through bitcoin and I won't even ask you for access to your personal information, so I can package it up and sell it to the Googleplex.
You date so that you learn confidence and introspection, which in turn allows you to find a real partner. You need to learn what's truly important to you in a partner. You need to learn how to break up when things aren't working for you.
An app can give you access to important information. But it can't help you use it wisely.
Sometimes I drift off to sleep imagining what it would have been like for thousands of years in small villages of under 1000 people. You see the same people at church (or mosque, or temple, or your stone circle) a few times a week, meet at the well to fetch water. Marriages mnight have been arranged by meddling aunts, especially for the wealthy, but many people would just meet as kids playing together and fall in love. Every interaction would be natural, human, connected in person.
Then some time in the early 20th century, we decided to all spread out thousands of miles. Live anonymous in giant cities, far from family and culture and tradition. We all stopped going to church. So we needed something different -- bars, and clubs, and dating were all developed. Already a messy solution, but at least people met in person, and had to approach each other, with alcohol and dancing to be social lubricants. Now it' been reduced to edited photos, one-liners and inneuendo written by text, never touching or seeing or smelling (smell is extremely important for attraction!) eahc other until you've each throughly vetted each other's social media, job, income, politics, etc. And now computers will be doing even the matching.
Rose colored view of history, though. The darker reality is that sometimes the men from the next village of 1000 would come and take everything away from your village, kill most of the males and take the females as wives. Rape of the Sabines style.
If an AI was trying to select people it thought you would get along well with thats not a bad thing. I met my wife on eHarmony in 2014. Why eHarmony? Because at the time they made you take a personality test and I liked the idea it wasn’t entirely random.
But if your AI assistant is in your ear telling you what to say… then yeah thats terrible. South Park has an episode about that.
If the algorithm can actually get smart enough to accurately predict which people are likely to be compatible, that would certainly be better than the current dating app system of the algorithm working to keep you swiping until the heat-death of the universe. This would also be a better future than the rise of AI girlfriends/boyfriends, who just give you exactly what you want all the time, leaving you an emotionally spoiled brat who is only capable of taking—not compromising, resolving conflicts, or self-improvement. With that said, this is also going to make everyone even more of a rejection coward, no doubt.
It will probably be a fad like every other damn thing for a few years, and people will be disappointed in AI because we forget one crucial detail: actual raw, sexual attraction.
Attributes, similarities, even being fair to moderately attractive according to the beholder, mean nothing if there’s not at least a basic chemical spark there.
End of dating? Nah not really. Most people will probably skip this one.
I agree it won't work. But, given polling data, it doesn't seem like people will go back to "actual raw, sexual attraction." It seems like the most likely thing to happen is more and more people will just stop dating entirely. They'll have their pornography, and grow older and older all alone in their homes or apartments, suffering in silence with no partners.
Isn't this kind of what a matchmaker does? AI is an easy target these days, but there seems to be value in this type of service.
This is why, for guys like me who only sleep with married women (if she gets pregnant, it’s “his” problem), online dating is a godsend….
Bring on the unhappy, lonely trophy wives who all were married via checklist. When you treat relationships like a job interview, there will always be slots for temps like me.
In the year 2525...
I think Whitney is missing something very important - the secret of successful dating.
And I'm going to give it to all of you for free. No request for payments through Western Union or through bitcoin and I won't even ask you for access to your personal information, so I can package it up and sell it to the Googleplex.
You date so that you learn confidence and introspection, which in turn allows you to find a real partner. You need to learn what's truly important to you in a partner. You need to learn how to break up when things aren't working for you.
An app can give you access to important information. But it can't help you use it wisely.
When I did flirt, in my younger years, always with a purpose, this is one task I would not delegate to AI.
Sometimes I drift off to sleep imagining what it would have been like for thousands of years in small villages of under 1000 people. You see the same people at church (or mosque, or temple, or your stone circle) a few times a week, meet at the well to fetch water. Marriages mnight have been arranged by meddling aunts, especially for the wealthy, but many people would just meet as kids playing together and fall in love. Every interaction would be natural, human, connected in person.
Then some time in the early 20th century, we decided to all spread out thousands of miles. Live anonymous in giant cities, far from family and culture and tradition. We all stopped going to church. So we needed something different -- bars, and clubs, and dating were all developed. Already a messy solution, but at least people met in person, and had to approach each other, with alcohol and dancing to be social lubricants. Now it' been reduced to edited photos, one-liners and inneuendo written by text, never touching or seeing or smelling (smell is extremely important for attraction!) eahc other until you've each throughly vetted each other's social media, job, income, politics, etc. And now computers will be doing even the matching.
RIP humanity.
Rose colored view of history, though. The darker reality is that sometimes the men from the next village of 1000 would come and take everything away from your village, kill most of the males and take the females as wives. Rape of the Sabines style.
If an AI was trying to select people it thought you would get along well with thats not a bad thing. I met my wife on eHarmony in 2014. Why eHarmony? Because at the time they made you take a personality test and I liked the idea it wasn’t entirely random.
But if your AI assistant is in your ear telling you what to say… then yeah thats terrible. South Park has an episode about that.
If the algorithm can actually get smart enough to accurately predict which people are likely to be compatible, that would certainly be better than the current dating app system of the algorithm working to keep you swiping until the heat-death of the universe. This would also be a better future than the rise of AI girlfriends/boyfriends, who just give you exactly what you want all the time, leaving you an emotionally spoiled brat who is only capable of taking—not compromising, resolving conflicts, or self-improvement. With that said, this is also going to make everyone even more of a rejection coward, no doubt.
Thanks, Bumble. You've successfully made the mystery of human attraction sound like an ad for Carvana.
Tell me, how much money did your users lose to romance scammers in the last 24 hours alone? Maybe train your AI on that teeny tiny problem instead.
"The Bumble founder is selling the fantasy that you can enjoy the company of others without effort."
Well, the Democrat Party is selling the idea that you can be "equal" without effort... so, what's new?
The Bumble founder is most likely a Bumbling idiot... and a Democrat.
The Democrat Party of America, delenda est!
Not EVERYTHING has to be about politics.
Yes it does. We live in society. Society is political.
The bit from Jerry Seinfeld’s commencement address immediately comes to mind:
Dating… You can’t do it!
It will probably be a fad like every other damn thing for a few years, and people will be disappointed in AI because we forget one crucial detail: actual raw, sexual attraction.
Attributes, similarities, even being fair to moderately attractive according to the beholder, mean nothing if there’s not at least a basic chemical spark there.
End of dating? Nah not really. Most people will probably skip this one.
I agree it won't work. But, given polling data, it doesn't seem like people will go back to "actual raw, sexual attraction." It seems like the most likely thing to happen is more and more people will just stop dating entirely. They'll have their pornography, and grow older and older all alone in their homes or apartments, suffering in silence with no partners.