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Advice to men—women like men who are capable, so figure out how to use power tools and fix stuff. Nothing says “good man, marry him” more than a guy wearing a tool belt and fixing your plumbing.

Advice to women—men like to eat good, home cooked meals. So learn how to cook, and don’t whine about how he needs to clean up. He just fixed your toilet, OK.

95% of being married is knowing you are on the same team.

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After a cult-arranged marriage, and a few years later, trolling bars and other gathering spots, I finally found the love of my life at...CHURCH! No sex before marriage, (that one was difficult), and finding common backgrounds and interests was the key for me. Sure, that person MIGHT have existed outside of church, but being involved with an organization that shared my basic interests really helped.

The rush that accompanies random hook-ups had nothing to do with it, but a leisurely "getting to know you" relationship surely made the difference. No, we did not live together first to test our compatibility, but in all of the important areas we discovered how we meshed. Not necessarily politically (I hate Trump but vote conservative, she LOVES Trump so we both laugh and get on with life), but in most matters compromise and agreement resulted in a marriage of 44 years to life.

Would I have preferred a slim, large breasted, and sexually aggressive mate? SURE, what man WOULDN'T! But who I found was a loving, generous, and compassionate person who was willing to laugh at out small differences and thank God for our shared life.

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“For a little Free Press twist on the usual lonely heart ad, we also want you to tell us about a recent time you changed your mind—and why”

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After claiming the border was secure for 3 years, Democrats blamed the 10 million new Criminal Aliens (D) on Republicans because Republicans had not passed a Perpetual Amnesty Machine™️ bill, the text of which had not yet been released.

This is when I changed my mind and decided Democrats are even worse sacks of shit than I had previously thought.

I regularly change my mind on how much worse Democrats are than I thought.

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I'd like to add one thing here. The confusion of VALUES with OPINIONS. Too often (and I see it on the right too but much, much more on the left) people feel that they have different values than the other side.

Sigh.. no. No you don't you idiots. You can VALUE the same things in life - humanity, integrity, honesty, compassion and have different POLITICAL OPINIONS.

Your opinions are NOT your identity, you are not a good person simply because you posted the black square in 2020. You're a good person because of the choices you make in real life. Every day. (IMO anyway).

I feel like an entire generation needs to hear this. PEOPLE need to hear this..

I apologize if I sound cranky. I am. But for once, I am glad to be in my 40's. I wouldn't want to grow up in the mess that is today....

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Perhaps the silver lining is that these Leftist women, desperately searching for Leftist emasculated men, will likely end up single and will not reproduce to spread their insanity. Maybe this ideology will fade out naturally.

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There are a zillion - no joke! - surveys, studies, books, articles, podcasts, etc., showing why, GENERALLY SPEAKING, married people are happier, less anxious, more financially secure, more patriotic (in a good way), less likely to need therapy or commit suicide, more likely to attend church or synagogue, more productive at work, more likely to donate to charity and volunteer, less prone to addictions. In other words, married people tend to have better lives, as that description is traditionally evidenced. This is a broad generalization, of course. Your mileage may vary.

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A non MAGA republican. Gosh maybe why he can’t get a date is because he makes gratuitous statements like that.

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Interesting topic, and timely, of course. I cannot relate to Gen Z's since I am 74. BUT I became a widower 6 years ago and wanted female company. One of my friends said try OurTime.com so I did. I think it is geared toward older folks. I ended up with about a dozen dates - most were once and done, but a couple were repeats that I truly liked. When you are selecting someone who sounds like a possibility, it is infinitely better to see a profile, no matter how flawed the information might be, than to try to pick up a stranger. Ultimately, I found someone with whom I have a 4-year relationship - no, we have not married - we are both thoroughly established in our own lives, but we get together weekly, we travel together, and in short, found love on terms that suit us both. Our experience with computer dating, while not without blemishes (she met a couple on-line predators), can only be termed positive. Yes, you need to be careful, but it is a good way to break the ice and meet potential partners. Don't be afraid to use this meet-up tool, but do it wisely.

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I can’t wait to share this with my 87-year-old friend in the nursing home. After decades of mocking the traditional pattern, the in-crowd is beginning to see what she has grown weary of pointing out. Daily she prays for the young people who take care of her. They are a jumble of dysfunction; single moms raging for child-support from the irresponsible men they gave their bodies to. Maybe one-in-ten is married.

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Men of any age, a not-so-crazy suggestion: get a stylist. You can do it online, and the big department stores often offer the service as well, sometimes for free. I am a pretty ordinary dude, and my stylist remade me after my divorce, starting with my haircut and eyeglasses, and on to some contemporary clothes that fit me well. I went from wrinkled schlump to exciting mid-life catch. Definitely worth the time and effort.

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Though this may seem frivolous, it is a significant issue as it reflects the health of our modern society. Historically, the family unit has been where values are formed at the kitchen table through parenting. In my experience of observing relationships at their core, it's about us rather than me.

The second is a strong set of values that holds people together. I have met a few Indians who were happily married after being part of an arranged marriage, it's a mindset; they make it work. In Arizona, I see strong marriages in the Morman church and the big box Christian churches. At the core is a devotion to lifestyles, faith, and traditional gender roles. Many are seen as happy and fulfilled, proving the articles point about marriage.

But for those whose church is wokism, their pastor idiot college professors, and faith in the leftist creed, it's a life of self-absorption and whatever happiness that brings. Ultimately, we are all individuals who can make our own path. Some crave a life partner, others do not. Ultimately, it's all about self-discovery, finding what fills your cup, and being a good citizen.

And if you crave a relationship, the best advice is to be ready. That partner will appear; when it does, you will be prepared to seize it. This will happen on either Ben or Suzi's path, so put the work in, and good things will happen..

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Wonderful thread.

I knew I would marry my wife by our 2nd or 3rd date. She was beautiful, smart, loving and reacted favorably to weekly gifts I showered on her. I was making a robust $219/week; the gifts were not too extravagant. It must have been the Chanel logo. I do all the cooking and fixing. She lets me know how wonderful I am. She’s in daily contact with our two children whom adore her to no end.

After 43 years she’s my hottie, still.

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The secret to a wonderful marriage is to marry a perfect saint.

Worked for my wife… 😂

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Isn't the word marriage (along with nuclear family) a dirty word that is verboten in our public schools and universities?

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Become a door to door sales rep. I did this for about a year and was miserable at it, but I did snag a husband! (No, he did not buy my product. Alas.) 10 years later, happily married with two kids 🥰.

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This is a delightful Valentine’s edition. Thank you FP!

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